Well I guess it's official, no one from my family texted or called me yesterday....and I didn't call or text my family.
To be honest I didn't call or text anyone except my son, and only said a small little blurp about being thankful on Facebook.
Things are tough. We all have our stories, and sometimes life for others is harder than yours... But... A BIG but... Sometimes it feels like you're working toward a happiness that will never exist. The holidays have continued to be a disappointment, full of sadness, regret, and definitely (for lack of a better word) crappy.
What is going on? What is happening?
If any of you have words of wisdom, positive enthusiasm, or the like please feel free to share, hopefully it'll help.
Hope. Ha.
I can relate to those days. It seems that a torrent of variables creates a noxious mental environment and no one has truly found a permanent solution.
ReplyDeleteThere are remedies, alleviations, so that gradually over time, it does get better.
A couple of basics:
1. exercise
2. eat healthy
3. have meaningful real world relationships
4. listen to soothing music
5. aromatherapy
6. Change your "beliefs" that seem to be limiting you in the sense that you holding on to them is making you feel these things. Your limiting beliefs being "working towards happiness". "holidays" as being a time of "sadness and regrets".
7. Change everything till you start getting different results.
Lastly, embrace the feelings, don't dwell on them, solving a problem involves embracing it, and then wholeheartedly working to change it.
Also, during the holidays, I have reinvented what they mean for me. Instead of being nostalgic regretful prances down memory lane, I have decided that the holidays for me mean the following:
1. rebooting myself for summer and rebooting my goals of moving to a warmer climate
2. rising to the challenge of my environment by trying to find ways to exercise in it rather than going into autopilot for the winter season.
3. calling friends and family to see what they're up to, and sharing what I am doing.
I read this as I clicked the "next blog" button up top.
ReplyDeleteI'm a complete stranger and I care.
I'm sad that happiness eludes you and I'm sorry you feel stuck. As you said, we all have tough times and they are directly related to the events of our lives. I have no way of knowing anything of your troubles, really, so no advice I could give would help in such a way as to stay in your life. Those things (I believe) come from reading something someone wrote and feeling it ping something in your heart. When you look inward and find that tender place inside, where the big things seem to miss the mark, take care and stay strong. You owe it to yourself to be as gentle and loving with your own heart as you would your children.
So if I had advice to give it would be that. Take a good long look at your broken heart and let happiness spring from your commitment to healing it and you. Do it for yourself because it's the right thing to do, not for any reward like some concept of happiness. We can define how happiness feels not what it is, because it's all personal.
This helped me:
Forget the past, they are just your memories
Forget the future, it is just your fears and hopes played out like a play for your mind to cling to.
Right here, right now, you are you in all of your perfection and you need to take care of anything within you that you wouldn't want to spend eternity with, because all you really have is who you are. Who you are is just the compilation of your choices and you can decide at any time to love yourself instead of being critical. That would change the intention of your choices and sit in your very mindset. We are nothing but our choices and the intentions of those choices over the course of our lives.
I really believe happiness springs from the moment we decide to stop ignoring our innermost heart and start listening to who we really are.
I hope you find happiness, from one human being to another. We're all beautiful :-)